As Valentine’s Day approaches and lovers are scampering around shops to buy last minute gifts, there are individuals dreading this moment for bonding. In my opinion, Valentine’s Day is just another corporate holiday to get consumers to spend loads of money on gift. If you love someone, shouldn’t you express that affection everyday through the high and low times? I dont buy my mate anything. In fact, I urge him place more love for himself rather than me as if he were single. I know it may seem odd and unconventional, especially being a millennial, but let me explain something to you.
When my love creates a light within himself, I am captivated by that glow and it fuels my attraction for him. When he is happy, I am happy.
Why You Should Love Yourself First
To start, forget about being in a relationship.
Yep, I said it. If you’re searching for love, stop. Jesus said himself it’s better to be single! Don’t even rant social media of your desires to have the perfect girl/guy to walk down the street hand in hand with. Searching for love will only lead to further frustration when those potential mates turn out to be a total disappointment. Did you know while you indulge in yourself, you’ll forget about being in a relationship? When you don’t even bother scanning those terrible dating apps SURPRISE your soulmate appears out of nowhere. I say that’s fate working in your life when you release control of finding a spouse.
Take care of YOURSELF
Take the time of singleness to indulge in yourself. Do things that make you happy. Go workout to get the summer body right. Open a savings account and start throwing that extra money into the bank because once you get into a relationship, you gotta take care of each other which requires tons of cash. Take a few classes to gain a better understanding of who you are intellectually. Travel the world! Get out there and see what this globe full of diverse cultures have to share with you instead of sitting at home and loathing your taken friends.
You’re free of judgement and worries
One of my biggest fears being in a relationship is receiving judgment from someone who is supposed to love me. It’s different getting criticism from a parent or friend because you can simply brush it off, but when it’s your spouse, those harsh words go off like bongos in your brain. You are doing everything to please them and the minute you start working on yourself it’s as if they are looking at a monster who’s against them. Being single, you’re free from this; trying to change yourself to meet their expectations and you’re also free from worrying about them when they don’t text back. They must be with someone else. Who is taking their attention away from me? Is it that girl/guy who made a comment they liked? All those anxious thoughts won’t add a minute back to your life.
Do yourself a favor, if you’re single, don’t fret about it. I might sound really harsh when I say this, but there are people in relationships who are dying to switch places with you. For Valentine’s Day, pamper yourself, buy flowers, or that PS4 game for visual therapy and let the day go by.
Thank you for reading.
